Having THE TALK with Mom or Dad
In many cases, our loved ones age quite gracefully and are able to remain with complete independence at quite an advanced age.┬á In other circumstances, limitations may set in earlier.┬á Regardless, it is recommended that family members initiate discussions with an elderly or disabled loved one to be sure that his/her physical and emotional needs are being met and discuss options for additional care.┬á In that regard, Ambassadors Caregivers┬áhas developed THE TALK, an easy to remember method that outlines key message points for such a conversation.
T┬á Transportation concerns.
“How safe do you feel when driving?┬á Is it a hassle obtaining groceries, going to see the doctor, etc.┬á Are there more dents/scratches on the car?”
H┬á How is he/she?
“How are you feeling these days?” Addressing the emotional needs of seniors cannot be overestimated.┬á Up to 32% of individuals referred to physicians for dementia are actually suffering from depression.
E┬á Errors with medications.
“Are you having trouble keeping all your medications straight?┬á Could you show me how you do it?”
“It looks like you have a little more trouble getting around the house, huh?┬á What about getting from your bed to the walker/wheelchair?”┬á The statistics on falls and risk factors are alarming for seniors
“Could you use some help with chores around the house?┬á What about getting yourself ready in the mornings?”
How does he/she look?┬á Are there signs of weight loss, dehydration, or weakness?┬á Is Mom no longer caring for herself the way she used to?
K┬á┬á Kickstart talks about assistance.
“I know you like your independence.┬á Have you ever considered getting a little help so you can stay as independent as possible?┬á I was thinking it might be good if you had a little help around the house.”┬á Or “What do you think about maybe making your life a little easier at a nice retirement facility or getting personal care assistant to come over and help from time to time?┬á It would free you from having to worry about as many things.”